Nothing is set in stone

The Oxford comma is a choice, not a rule (and it is not about grammar)

Unlike languages like French or Spanish, the English language does not have an official academy that registers the use of the language and determines which rules still apply and which are obsolete. While institutions such as the Oxford Dictionary help with standardizing and registering the language, English evolves through the daily use of its speakers, and its rules evolve with it.

As a consequence, some rules are more fixed than others, and many of them are not so much rules as they are stylistic choices. Does this mean we can write however we please? Not exactly, but it means that many "rules" are not set in stone. Let’s see some language mandates that are more of a guideline.

As evidenced by daily language, it is perfectly acceptable to end a sentence with a preposition, no matter the context or the formality. In fact, it’s something that speakers tend to do naturally. The idea that ending sentences with a preposition is incorrect is a myth left over by 17th-century grammarians trying to impose Latin grammar on the English language.

‘To run quietly’ or ‘To quietly run’, which one is correct? The answer is both. The choice to place an adverb after the infinitive or in the middle of it has nothing to do with proper grammar, but with emphasis and sounding more natural. Again, this "rule" is a leftover from Latin grammar.

Not so long ago, this rule was set in stone, and saying "to who?" instead of "to whom" would get you a few stares. However, rules change as people change, and the use of ‘who’ to refer to the object has become increasingly more common. However, this only applies to informal contexts. In a more formal setting, it is recommended to still use ‘whom’.

Much like prepositions at the end of sentences, conjunctions —such as and, but, so, or, nor, for, and yet— can go at the beginning of a sentence. This helps with emphasis, breaks up long sentences, and provides flexibility, although it is recommended to use them sparingly in this way.

The first issue here is that the serial comma, better known as the Oxford comma, is a punctuation issue, not a grammar rule. That aside, although it is recommended to avoid confusion caused by lengthy enumerations, in the end, it is a stylistic choice, and it is only considered mandatory in contexts that follow a certain style guide.

Just because in most cases the adjective goes before the noun, it does not mean it should always do so. English speakers tend to naturally put the adjective first when talking about qualities and characteristics, but in many cases, putting the noun first will sound better. Again, it depends on your preferences and the flow of the sentence.

While this is technically correct and subjunctive has been used this way for centuries, this rule mainly applies to written language and formal contexts. In colloquial English, speakers tend to use both the indicative and the subjunctive for uncertain or contrary-to-fact scenarios, such as saying "If I was you" and "If I were you". The choice almost always boils down to what sounds more natural.

Once an unbreakable rule, the use of ‘they’, ‘their’, and ‘them’ for a singular antecedent is widely accepted nowadays, even in the most formal contexts, to fill the gap left by the lack of gender neutral pronouns. In fact, many style guides recommend using these words as singular to avoid awkwardness and assuming someone’s gender.

"Two negatives make a positive", a rule you must have heard about in school. While this is a fact in math, it is not always true in grammar. In more standard English variants, the rule applies, especially in academic writing and formal contexts. However, informal dialects and vernaculars follow the ‘negative concord’: here, the second negative intensifies the first one instead of cancelling it.

This is a myth made popular by old grammar books. ‘None’ can be used with both singular and plural verbs, depending on the meaning. When ‘none’ is used to mean ‘not any’, it is more natural to use a plural verb. When it means ‘not one’ or ‘not any of it’, the verb should be in the singular form. If you are unsure, pick the choice that sounds clearer and more natural.

Ancestral family names

What did "Walkers" do, exactly? Very popular surnames, explained

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Do you have a very popular surname? Have you ever looked up its meaning? Well, if you are a Smith, a Murphy, a Miller, or a Lee, you probably already know a bit of the history of your ancestors. Do you think you can guess the origin of these 12 widespread last names? Read on to go back a few generations and learn some names’ backstories!

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One of the most common surnames in the English-speaking world! As you may know, its origin is occupational, and it refers to "one who works with metal."

It derives from the Old English smið. Nowadays, it remains the most common surname in America. Interestingly, its synonymous versions are just as popular in other languages, like Schmidt in German and Ferraro in Italian.

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The surname "Miller" referred to someone who operated a mill; these were vital in medieval communities. The surname spread across Britain, Ireland, and later the U.S., until it became one of the most recognizable surnames.

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"Lee" is trickier because it has multiple origins, depending on the culture. In English, it comes from Old English lēah, meaning a clearing or meadow, so it was originally a toponymic surname for someone living near a grassy field.

In China, "Li" (often spelled Lee) is one of the oldest and most common surnames, meaning "plum," and is associated with ancient dynasties and scholars.

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The surname "Clark" comes from the Latin clericus, meaning "clergyman" or "scholar." In medieval England, clerks were among the few literate people, so the term broadened to describe scribes, secretaries, and record-keepers.

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"Murphy" is the most widespread Irish surname, anglicized from the Gaelic Ó Murchadha, meaning "descendant of Murchadh."

The name Murchadh combines muir (sea) and cath (battle), so it literally means "sea warrior." With multiple unrelated Murphy families across Ireland, the name spread widely.

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"Walker" is an occupational surname as well. So, what did walkers do? Their job was fulling, the process of cleaning and thickening woven wool, often by literally walking on it in troughs of water. The word derives from the Old English wealcere, meaning "one who fulls cloth."

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"Allen" is of Celtic origin, derived from the Gaelic Ailín or Breton Alan, meaning "little rock." However, very similar terms can also be interpreted as "handsome," "fair," or "beautiful." Each family will probably get to pick their preferred meaning.

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The surname "Wright" comes from the Old English word wryhta or wyrhta, meaning "worker" or "maker."

It was often used with a prefix to specify the craft, such as "wheelwright" for wheel makers or "shipwright" for shipbuilders. Over time, "Wright" stood alone as a surname for skilled tradespeople. It’s one of the oldest English occupational surnames.

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"Nguyen" (pronounced roughly "nwin" or "ngwee-en," depending on dialect) is the most common surname in Vietnam, held by around 40% of the population. It derives from the name of a Chinese musical instrument, the ruan.

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The surname "Hill" is of English and sometimes Scottish origin, derived from the Old English hyll, meaning exactly what it sounds like: someone who lived by or on a hill. Simple geographic names like this were among the earliest surnames in use, since they helped distinguish local communities.

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The Scottish surname "Campbell" comes from the Gaelic Caimbeul, meaning "crooked mouth" (cam = crooked, beul = mouth).

It began as a descriptive nickname, likely for someone with a distinctive facial feature. Over centuries, it became strongly associated with Clan Campbell, one of the most powerful Highland clans.

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The surname "Reed" (also spelled Read or Reid) has several origins in England and Scotland. Most often it was descriptive, from Old English rēad, meaning "red," referring to someone with red hair or a ruddy complexion.